The world lost a great teacher last weekend with the passing of Dr Wayne Dyer, internationally acclaimed self empowerment writer and speaker. He inspired millions over his lifetime through his teachings.

In reflecting on his passing, I re-read some of his very well known quotes, and several of them resonated with me today:

“Don’t die with your music still in you.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

Dr Dyer certainly didn’t die with his music still in him. He shared his thoughts, his talents, his gifts with the world. He was passionate about ‘living his bliss’ as he called it.

Are you living your bliss? Are you sharing your talents, gifts, skills with the world? Are you living the life you want to be living?

I asked myself those questions a couple of years ago. And in listening to my heart, I couldn’t honestly answer “yes”. At that point, life was good, but it wasn’t great. It wasn’t exciting enough for me. It wasn’t purposeful enough. Life wasn’t sizzling. In all honesty, I felt like I was letting myself and my talents down. I am not one to live with regrets, so something had to change…..

And it did. A little while later, I resigned from all the work I was doing and took time to re-evaluate, to stretch my mind.

“What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

And I have. I’ve reset my personal vision for the next 50 years, and it’s enormous. I’m totally out of my comfort zone as I work towards achieving the massive goals I’ve set… and yes, it’s a really challenging place to be. Thankfully most of the time it feels good, because what I’m doing is right for me and my life, and it will have a positive flow-on effect for those I love. At present, the ride is bumpy, filled with lots of twists and turns. Everything is totally unpredictable, but hey ho, that’s life, isn’t it?!?

My new future is unfolding. It’s exciting, it’s challenging, it’s scary – the fear gremlins kick in from time to time as I ‘put myself out there’, doing the work and living the life I am now creating. I’ve always had a fear of failure… but in the last few years, I’ve let that go (or at least I’m working on that too) as it’s wasted energy.

Oh, and as for the learning and the mistakes… there are many. But that’s OK too. They are lessons. I’m where I’m meant to be right now, learning, progressing and contributing every day. Now, I’m failing forward and enjoying the journey.

“Our lives are a sum total of the choices we have made.” – Wayne Dyer

I’m so excited about the new choices, the new decisions I’ve made and the work I’m doing. I’m definitely NOT going to die with my music still in me. I’m going to play my music on every musical instrument I can lay my hands on – regardless of how it sounds. 🙂

So, how about you? Are you living your life on your terms? Where’s your music?

Regret is one of the saddest emotions in life. I’ve seen too many people living with regret. It’s heartbreaking, especially when it’s experienced near the end of their life.

I will live the rest of my life continuing to sizzle and playing music according to my values of love and trust, happiness and gratitude, health and fitness, family and friends, learning and teaching, entrepreneurship and generosity, creativity and curiosity, courage and optimism, travel and adventure, collaboration and conversation.

I hope to hear your music loud and clear too. Let’s rock it out of the park together!

RIP Dr Wayne Dyer.

“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It’s what you haven’t done that will torment you. Therefore, the message is clear. Do it!Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savour it.” – Dr Wayne Dyer

ACTION: Have you been a follower of Wayne Dyer? I’d love to know what impact his books and teachings have had on your life. How about telling me in the comments below.

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Think of the most extraordinary or successful people you know or admire. In all likelihood, they are just like you, me and most others … ordinary people with an X factor.

I’ve had the pleasure of meeting, working with, coaching and interviewing the most extraordinary people over the last 30 years; people who are successful in the widest definition of the word. Yes, some are hugely successful entrepreneurs, business leaders, sports people, and celebrities. Others are people who are living on their terms, ordinary people with extraordinary lives.

Their journeys have not been easy or straight forward. There have been twists and turns, stops and starts, successes and failures, happiness and heartache, yet they have risen above all that to be, have, achieve and give all that they desire.

I’ve noticed common threads, common beliefs that have helped them be the people they are. You can model those beliefs to create the success in life you want. Great eh!

Belief 1: 100 percent accountability

Life is full of tough bits, but successful people find ways to get around them or over them. What they don’t do is get resentful, give up or sit back in a fog of self-entitlement and wait for their luck to change. They understand and accept that life is a journey. They are 100 percent accountable and responsible for everything in their lives.

Belief 2: People are paramount

On one hand, this has become a truism of modern life: people matter. On the other, most of us forget it, every day. Often we take our loved ones for granted. We do what we need to, in order to keep the home fires burning or to fulfil our social or business obligations, and we forget that this is a dimension of life in which we can either succeed, or… not. Extraordinary people recognise that people are critical in all parts of their lives – business and personal.

Belief 3: Constant learning

Success in its widest definition is built on staying dynamic. Not settling. Continuing to learn. Often as adults we forget how exciting it is to learn and grow, and how vital this is to a meaningful life.

Successful people also grow by being productive. They create; they don’t just consume. It might be pottery or cupcakes or electronic music. It could be something more amorphous: setting up a Corporate Social Responsibility Committee at work or putting together a library of kids’ books for the local children’s hospital. Any process that incorporates learning, problem solving and creativity into our lives enables us to grow.

Belief 4: No such thing as failure

Personal growth only happens when something changes, and change is often painful. It means we risk failure, which is very often painful. But failure is a fact of life for anyone who is dynamic, and failures are fast tracks to growth. Successful people don’t view them as failures. They see them as opportunities for learning. We should try to fear failure less. How about ‘failing forward’ as I call it?

Belief 5: Everything happens for a reason

As much as this is hard to take when times are tough, we are where we are in life right now, for a reason. There are lessons and learnings to take from our current experience and situation. There are new horizons on offer because we are at this juncture. When we learn the lessons we move forward, often in new and unexpected ways. Successful people understand that, and look for the lessons on all dimensions, so they can move forward, fast.

Belief 6: Commitment and focus

As Shakespeare said: “Nothing comes from doing nothing”. One of the fundamental traits of successful people is their ability to deploy laser-like focus on achieving their goals, no matter the distractions, challenges, bumps and bruises along the way. For as long as the goals remain relevant to them, successful people remain committed and focused. When we really focus on something, we turbo-boost our efforts and we see more clearly how to do the work.

Belief 7: Happiness and gratitude

Happiness is a decision we make; it is not derived from an event, nor is it dependent on somebody else. Happiness is not a stroke of luck. Too many people say, ‘I’d be happy if ……’ or, ‘I’ll be happy when ……….’ Pinning our happiness on something that has yet to come to pass is a sure-fire way to miss the happiness available to us in the here and now.

The practice of gratitude is absolutely fundamental to replenishing our energy reserves. It is one of the key ways in which we choose happiness for ourselves and it also boosts our ability to empathise with others and live in a more open-hearted and generous way.

Extraordinary people know that happiness in the now and gratitude is core to their sparkle in life. In some way, it also outwardly contributes to their X factor, the magnetism that we’re often attracted to.

You’ve made it. These are the 7 success beliefs of successful and extraordinary people. As promised, they are not unique to others, they are simple strategies that work and can be mastered by us all. Are you up for it?

ACTION: Which of the success beliefs do you hold close and practice already? Are there other success beliefs that you see in the people you most admire in your life? Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to read your thoughts and ideas.

Could some guidance from me be helpful to you?  If so, please arrange a free 30 mins Skype strategy meeting with me.  Here’s my calendar to book a meeting.  I’d love to support you in some way to gain ‘seductive clarity’ in any aspect of your business or life.